What Would Sigmund Freud Say About Gambling?

Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, was known for his theories on the human mind and behavior. If he were alive today, he would undoubtedly have a lot to say about gambling, a phenomenon that has fascinated humans for centuries. In this article, we will explore what Freud would have said about gambling based on his theories.

According to Freud, human behavior is motivated by two drives: the life drive (Eros) and the death drive (Thanatos). The life drive seeks pleasure and happiness, while the death drive seeks destruction and aggression. These drives interact with each other to shape human behavior.

In the context of gambling, Freud would argue that the life drive plays a significant role. Gambling provides a sense of pleasure and excitement to those who participate in it. The possibility of winning money or prizes is a powerful incentive that activates the pleasure center in the brain. Freud would argue that this pleasure is rooted in the unconscious desire for power and control over one's environment.

At the same time, Freud would also acknowledge that the death drive is present in gambling behavior. The risk of losing money and the potential for addiction can lead to destructive behavior. Gambling addiction can be a destructive force that consumes individuals and leads them to financial ruin and emotional distress.

Freud would also point out that gambling is not just a matter of chance or luck. He would argue that gambling behavior is a reflection of the individual's unconscious desires and motivations. For example, an individual who is driven by the desire for power and control may be more likely to engage in high-stakes gambling. Likewise, an individual who is seeking escape from emotional pain or trauma may turn to gambling as a form of self-medication.

Freud would also be interested in the social and cultural aspects of gambling. He would argue that gambling behavior is influenced by the norms and values of the society in which it occurs. In some cultures, gambling is seen as a harmless pastime, while in others, it is viewed as a sin or a vice. Freud would argue that these cultural attitudes towards gambling shape the individual's attitudes and behaviors towards it.

Freud would also be interested in the psychology of gambling addiction. He would argue that addiction is a form of psychological defense mechanism that individuals use to cope with emotional pain or trauma. Gambling addiction can be seen as a way to escape from reality and to create a sense of control over one's environment. The pleasure derived from gambling becomes a substitute for genuine human connections and relationships.

In conclusion, Freud would have had a lot to say about gambling based on his theories of human behavior. He would argue that gambling behavior is motivated by the life drive and the desire for pleasure and control, as well as the death drive and the potential for addiction and self-destruction. Freud would also be interested in the social and cultural aspects of gambling, as well as the psychology of gambling addiction. His insights would have shed light on the complex and multifaceted nature of gambling behavior and its impact on individuals and society.

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Psychological Theories Can Help Improve Your Gambling Mindset & Examples

Gambling is a popular activity enjoyed by many individuals, but it can also be a source of stress and anxiety. Psychological theories can help improve your gambling mindset by providing insights into how our minds work and how to better manage emotions and behaviors while gambling. Here are some examples of psychological theories that can help improve your gambling mindset.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

CBT is a form of therapy that focuses on changing negative thoughts and behaviors. When applied to gambling, CBT can help individuals recognize and challenge negative thoughts that may lead to problem gambling. For example, a person may have thoughts such as “I have to keep playing until I win” or “I’m due for a big win soon.” CBT can help individuals recognize these thoughts and develop more realistic and positive thoughts about gambling. This can lead to a more healthy and balanced approach to gambling..

Self-Determination Theory (SDT)

SDT is a theory that focuses on the motivation behind our behaviors. According to SDT, there are three basic psychological needs that must be met in order for individuals to feel satisfied and motivated: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. When applied to gambling, SDT suggests that individuals should feel a sense of autonomy and control over their gambling behavior, have the competence to make informed decisions about their gambling, and feel a sense of relatedness to others while gambling. This can help individuals feel more in control of their gambling behavior and lead to more positive outcomes.

Expectancy Theory 

Expectancy theory suggests that individuals make decisions based on their expectations of the outcomes of those decisions. When applied to gambling, expectancy theory suggests that individuals may engage in gambling behaviors based on their expectations of winning or losing. For example, a person may continue to gamble because they believe that they will eventually win big, even if they have experienced significant losses in the past. Understanding expectancy theory can help individuals recognize and manage their expectations of gambling outcomes and make more informed decisions about their gambling behavior.

Social Learning Theory

Social learning theory suggests that individuals learn behaviors by observing others and the consequences of their behaviors. When applied to gambling, social learning theory suggests that individuals may learn gambling behaviors from others and the outcomes of those behaviors. For example, a person may start gambling because they see their friends or family members gambling and winning. Understanding social learning theory can help individuals recognize the influence of others on their gambling behavior and make more informed decisions about their own behavior.

Overall, understanding psychological theories can help improve your gambling mindset by providing insights into how your mind works and how to better manage your emotions and behaviors while gambling. By applying these theories to your gambling behavior, you can develop a more healthy and balanced approach to gambling that can lead to more positive outcomes.

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How Can Psychology Improve Your Gambling Knowledge?

Psychology plays a significant role in the world of gambling, as it helps individuals understand their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors while gambling. This knowledge can help gamblers make better decisions, increase their chances of winning, and avoid potential pitfalls that can lead to addiction and other negative consequences. In this article, we will detail a couple of psychological theories and principles that can improve your gambling knowledge and help you achieve your goals as a gambler.

The first theory that can help you improve your gambling knowledge is the concept of probability and chance. Probability is the likelihood of an event occurring, and it is crucial in gambling, as it helps you understand the odds of winning or losing in a particular game. For example, if you are playing a game of blackjack, and you know the odds of drawing a particular card, you can make more informed decisions about whether to hit or stand.

Another key principle in psychology that can help you improve your gambling knowledge is the concept of heuristics. Heuristics are mental shortcuts that individuals use to make decisions quickly and efficiently. In gambling, these shortcuts can often lead to errors in judgment, as gamblers may use past experiences or emotional states to guide their decisions. To avoid these errors, it is important to understand the underlying biases and assumptions that are driving your decision-making process, and to learn to recognize when they are leading you astray. 

The theory of operant conditioning is another psychological principle that can be useful in gambling. This theory states that behavior is shaped by the consequences that follow it. In gambling, this means that rewards and punishments can influence the way you approach the games you play. For example, if you consistently win when you follow a particular strategy, you may be more likely to use that strategy in the future. On the other hand, if you experience losses when using a certain strategy, you may be less likely to use it again in the future. By understanding operant conditioning, you can better control your gambling behavior and increase your chances of success.

Another important psychological principle to consider when gambling is the concept of risk-taking behavior. Risk-taking behavior refers to an individual's willingness to engage in activities that involve uncertainty and potential danger. In gambling, risk-taking behavior can lead to negative consequences, such as addiction and financial problems. To mitigate these risks, it is important to understand why you engage in risk-taking behavior and to learn how to control your urges. This may involve seeking help from a therapist or support group, as well as developing a better understanding of your own motivations and triggers.

Lastly, it is important to understand the role of emotions in gambling. Emotions can have a significant impact on your decision-making process, and they can lead you to make impulsive decisions that may not be in your best interest. For example, if you are feeling sad or anxious, you may be more likely to engage in high-risk gambling behavior, which can increase your chances of losing money. To avoid this, it is important to learn how to manage your emotions and to practice mindfulness and self-reflection, so that you can stay focused and make rational decisions while gambling.

In conclusion, psychology plays a crucial role in the world of gambling, and by understanding a few key theories and principles, you can improve your gambling knowledge and increase your chances of success. Whether you are just starting out or are an experienced gambler, it is never too late to start learning about the psychology of gambling and how it can help you achieve your goals. With the right knowledge and tools, you can make more informed decisions, avoid potential pitfalls, and enjoy the thrill of gambling with greater confidence and control.

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Introvert Gambler: 5 Behaviours You Can't Avoid...

You've seen him hiding behind his Racing Post. Furtive eyes flicking from side to side. You think he's studying the form. I bet he's got a fancy in the next race at Newton Abbot. A handkerchief is pulled from his pocket, dabbing as a sweaty brow. Cheeks flushed like crimson. I bet 6/4 this young upstart is going to place a monkey on the counter. I've heard there's a big gambler on the estate.  

Fred comes in and I whisper a word inquiring to this stranger in town. 

He laughs and replies: ''That's Mark, he's an introvert gambler!''

Gambling is so often the domain of the extrovert. Loud, brash, it's like they are on loud-speaker when they utter a quiet word. It's like Harry Findlay after he has ripped the balls off a bookmaker who last week had some beef over his gravy. The betting world is populated with the extrovert. They were made for the term coined by Carl Jung in his work Psychological Types, published in the 1920s.  

But what about the Introvert Gambler? 

Watch out for these 5 Behaviours You Can't Avoid:

1) Don't Call As I'm Not In...

It's true. Even if it's one of your mates calling about a free ticket to the greyhound Derby with Harry Findlay, you just can't answer the phone. You're permanently not at home even though that curtain has been twitching like a nervous eye. 

Reason: Introverts just love their own space. It's sacred. An unexpected noise, knock at the door, a stranger in the bookmakers can feel like your temple of quiet solitude has been invaded. The introvert is all about peace, quiet and harmony (and I'm not talking hairspray). They need time to think and express thoughts. A phone call is just isn't acceptable. 

 2) I Don't Need A Phone...

As hard as it is to receive a call, it's difficult to make a phone call, too. In fact, if there is any way of avoiding making a call. That's the answer. March opened a betting account. He had a fancy in the 2:30 Newmarket. It took him twenty minutes to dial the phone. The thought of calling a stranger. It's probably some beast of a person at the end of the line. 

Reason: Introverts use non-verbal communication such as body language  

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Fat Teddy Bears, Lying and Alcohol

I guess these three words could be described as the good, bad and ugly. I would imagine most people have partaken in owning a teddy bear, drinking alcohol and even lying. 

It makes me wonder who is the person who still has all three going on as an adult, especially if a man. I have this scenario in mind of a toy collector (bears), who lied about the price he paid for this Stieff bear, which tormented him so much that Mr Bear Collector turned to alcohol.  I'm sure you could imagine lots of story lines. 

Plenty of people have lied or turned to alcohol when gambling goes wrong. But I wonder what they would say if you ask how they are...

As always, everything in moderation and remember that willpower is a good foundation to build reason, logic and responsibility. 

So what does psychology tell us about these three things:

Did you know, 1 in 5 women and 1 in 20 men admit to sleeping with a teddy bear. 

Lier, lier....

Do you know the most common lie? 

''I'm fine''

As many as 9% of adult Americans have been to Alcoholics Anonymous meeting at some time in their life. 

Fat Teddy Bears. Well, lets talk about fat in general - piling on the pounds. Posting a calorie chart in fast food restaurants leads people to choose less healthy options. 

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He's Backed Every Favourite Since 1973

When you make a decision it seems natural to think you have weighed up all the factors. Let's say you considered a bet. You think the horse has winning form. It likes the ground. Good jockey. The price is better than you thought and looks value. Job done. Well, that's the logic, hey. However, research suggests there may be a problem. Our decision making is mostly unconscious. Now you may consider that is a load of old rubbish. ''I know what I think!'' But consider how these aspects may influence your ''decisions''. 

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Are you influenced by what others say? The paper favourite? What does that bloke from the Racing Post have to say? You maverick doing your own thing. In an instant you can appreciate how social validation plays its part.  The difficultly is that so much of our ''decision making'' is ingrained, habitual, implicit that even trying to make it conscious is no easy task. As Sigmund Freud would say: ''We are trying to make the unconscious conscious.''

Your past behaviour will affect how you behave in the future? It most likely will unless you can appreciate why you behave in such a way. Have you noticed the bloke in the bookies who only bets on the favourite? Every time it's a favourite. He may try and mix it up a little with a cross the card double (but it's still two favourites). But why? We like to stay true to ourselves and so we follow a personal commitment to do just that. Take a read of our post: I followed That Horse Off A Cliff. 

Boy, you will be waiting a long time for Uncle Harold to take out his mat and do some break dancing.

Back an outsider? Fu*k Off!!!!!

But what else? Do you follow a tipster even though he has been in terrible form of late because he had a good winner last year. I owe him. Or your mate took your advice last week and he's really keen on this horse  and would you believe it's in the same race as mine. That reciprocity can turn your mind. But so too can your ''decision'' never to trust anyone's advice but your own (talking to myself here).

However, this doesn't mean your thinking is faulty, irrational or bad. It's simply that our conscious mind cannot cope with all the data it tries to process. Our unconscious mind has evolved to do the job. For the most part it does it well. It's not a tyrant trying to teach us a lesson for being a naughty child. It trusts it makes a decision in our interests. That's the ''gut feeling''. 

Probably the best way to appreciating how we make decisions is to keep a diary. Not so much about our selection or bets but how we got to that point. This is much more difficult than it sounds but it can be revealing especially if you notice a pattern of behaviour keeps cropping up. 

What do you think, Sigmund?

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Life's A Bitch When Betting From Your Deck Chair

This chair I'm sitting feels a little hard. As I'm getting on in years (joke) perhaps I should give a comfy rocker a test drive. That's a rocking chair not an affluent, long-haired bloke with an electric guitar. That deck chair on the beach looks inviting. The sound of the sea, gulls calling... peace and harmony. The perfect situation to take your phone from your pocket and place a bet. 

I guess you are wondering why I'm talking about chairs. After all, this website is about the psychology of gambling not a subdivision of Ikea. Trust me, if I thought I could sell you a chair I would have a link to one of those Han's Wegner wonderbars (basically a super cool chair). But wait a minute, check out the chair you are sitting this moment because it might be a little more important than you thought.

Psychology and the influence of the unconscious mind are becoming an important factor in understanding the human condition and particularly how this relates to our modern world. Whether we like it or not, psychology is becoming a tool of advantage to the extent that companies are paying fortunes with regard to the fascinating world of neuromarketing.

So what about that chair? Well, for the first time I can tell you that a chair isn't just something you sit on. All those years and I just hadn't seen the wood for the chairs. So what's your favourite seating arrangement? A Han's Werger, stool, bean bag or the classic poof? I don't think I would have the confidence to go into a shop and ask for a classic poof! But back to the chairs. More importantly, where do you sit when watching the racing, football or whatever sport tickles your fancy? Being specific, have you ever considered that the chair which you sit may change your betting performance? I must admit - even with my interest in psychology - I hadn't considered this point until reading an article written by Jeremy Mercer: Exploring the Promise and the Perils of the New Unconscious.

In 2009, a group of students from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology took part in a study on ''bargaining techniques''. The students were seated in an office, shown a car listed at $16,500 and told to get the best possible price. Offers were made and rejected, deals struck, and then the students went on their way, from what seemed a straightforward negotiation.

However, this experiment was rather remarkable in the fact that it tested whether people could be unconsciously influenced through the sense of touch. Basically, could the chair that you sit have an influence on your behaviour? Half of the students sat on hard wooden seats while the others sat on soft cushioned chairs. It was found that those sitting on hard chairs were less flexible in their negotiations and offered less money - on average $347 less - to purchase the car. 

It was concluded that hard surfaces make people ''harder'' when negotiating because the hardness triggers concepts of stability, which the unconscious brain translates into a more confident bargaining position. This ''hard chair effect'' is part of new research which unlocks the mysteries of the human unconscious and the power it can harness. 

Next time you consider a bet, take a moment to consider how your environment may effect your unconscious mind. With further research, it is possible bookmakers may be using this new technology to hinder your success. 

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Bet You Buy The Red Car

What's your favourite colour? Red, blue, orange, purple? In truth, it could well be anything from the spectrum. You know, I'm sure if George Orwell had been looking at colour charts instead of writing Animal Farm he would have made this famous quote: ''All colours are equal, but some are more equal than others.''  I would hazard a guess that if you went to buy a car you'd pick the red one over the brown? Whether we like it or not, our preference for certain colours is based within biology and psychology. 

Have you been influenced by the mysterious power of colours? If you're not careful colours could addle your mind and turn your brains to a bright green jelly. 

Now let's face it, we just instinctively know more buyers would choose the red car. It's the same as someone offering you a plate of biscuits - that bright green one spiked with food colouring may stand out from the crowd but it may as well have been touched by a leper's hand for all the likelihood it will be eaten. 

Yuck!

How about a drink of brown tomato juice? Wait a moment while I take it back to the kitchen and pump it full of artificial colours. You just can't get enough of that new bright red concoction. 

Blimey! These colours are making me behave irrationally. 

Colours are rooted in our emotional responses. But what could this mean from a gambling perspective? 

Is that why lady luck invites us to bet on the grey horse even though it has terrible form? I saw that lucky black cat this morning so I'm betting on the horse with noire in its name.  

In 1973, biologist Theodosius Dobzhansky, observed that ''nothing in biology makes sense except in the light of evolution.'' 

An article published in 2010 by psychologists Palmer & Schloss tested the theory that human colour preference is adaptive. That people are more likely to survive and reproduce successfully if they are attracted to objects with colours that ''look good'' to them and they will avoid colours which ''look bad'' to them. 

I'm never going to look at those coloured lottery balls in the same light again. However, if blue has always been lucky for you then don't be surprised if you fancy Chelsea for a football flutter. Perhaps that isn't such a surprise when most people favour colours associated with the sky and clean water. 

Would you dive into brown water? 

Their study found that brightly saturated colours were preferred over the same hue that were muted or pastel. Brown and green were significantly less preferred than orange and yellow. Bright blues, reds and green were the mostly highly favoured colours. 

But are these colour preferences based on nature or nurture? Interestingly, researchers found that Japanese colour preferences were different from American suggesting a cultural origin. 

Importantly most colours are associated differently in relation to different objects. You wouldn't have any qualms about drinking chocolate milk because it's brown.

However, all this research and our preferences can give greater insight to why - at times - we make certain decisions. 

The next time you consider a gamble, take a moment to consider if the colour of the team shirt, the racing silks or your liking for red on the roulette table is really a rational decision?

Martin Seligman said magenta was his favourite colour because of the amazing effect of the colour on the human body. 
      

Learning, Authority and Please Don't Frown

Psychology can tell us a lot about ourselves. You, me the old bloke down the street. Knowledge is power and reason enough why understanding is good. 

However, never forget that your mind is unique. 

The next time someone says you are unique, take it as a compliment and agree. 

How do you learn? It is difficult to be objective about yourself and how you learn but psychology can help us appreciate this subject a little better. 

We do learn by example - give someone a similar situation and they will learn to join the dots. 

We've all gone round a friend's house and seen clothes all over the place and it looks like a tip. Believe it or not, they are organised. Science has proven that every human has a tendency to categorize. It's just that the ''messy'' ones have their own particular form of categorization. Ask them, they know where to find items. 

Be careful about working in groups. Why? Because they have a tendency to lead to extreme decisions. It also leads people to drift away from the original topic. 

Be careful of leaders. Their authority will sway your decision making. 

Do you know that controlling your facial muscles can help control your anger? Don't frown and you will not feel so emotional. 

Don't be frightened of a challenge. It is a fact that facing challenges make you happier. 

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Fear of Bearded Men and the Number 13

I guess we are all scared of something? 

Something terrifying - something stupid. Who is to say what we should be scared?

Psychology loves phobias. You name a phobia with a Greek sounding name and it is there. Poking it with a stick. Provoking it to respond, like a child throwing stones at wasp nest until you have a black cloud above your head. You know, wasps just stop flying and drop out of the air onto their victim and sting. 

I have never placed a bet with a bookmaker with a beard. I've never really thought too much about it until today. Reading about phobias I have learned that a fear of beards is called Pogonophobia. It doesn't really sound like a fear of beard, the word, I mean.  

Pogon is actually Greek for beard. Phobia English for phobia! (Via Latin from Greek).

Who knows why we have a fear of beards? Perhaps it is simply because someone can't grow one. Their ex had a big bushy beard, hiding a kitten. You simply never know. 

Numbers. What do they mean to you? Race cards. PIN number. Mobile No. Why would someone have a fear of numbers? I can understand one number if you are superstitious. Thirteen. See I wrote it there in letter rather than the number 13. 

So you have a phobia called Triskadekaphobia. 

Tri = 3. 

Deka = 10. 

A fear of thirteen. Basically, Friday the 13th. 

Interesting that no one had hardly mentioned the word until 1900. So it must have appeared in some publication around that date. The unlucky 13 relates to 1890s and Last Supper. Judas, the last and thirteenth disciple to sit at the table, who betrayed Jesus. 

Thirteen is consider lucky for some. 

Where?

In Italy it is considered lucky. 

If you have a fear of 13 you are not alone. Famous people include: Stephen King (horror writer). 

Never bet on a bearded jockey, riding a horse number thirteen and its name is Triskadekaphobia.  

I know for a fact a horse of that name raced in UK. Number thirteen. Possible. Bearded jockey. 33/1. 

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Psychology: Why Number 7 is the Luckiest

Surely a number is a number? 

They should represent the number of something. One apple, two pairs, three wise men... 

However, we know that numbers aren't just numbers, hey? That's why you have your favourites, dislike others or superstitious of some. 

When a feeling is evoked from a number... it isn't just a number any more.  

If I asked you to name an unlucky number it would most likely be 13. Although this may vary from country to country. It is considered luck in Italy. 

As detailed in our previous article: Fear of Bearded Men and the Number 13. Research has shown that one in ten people are superstitious about the number 13. 

What about Friday the 13th. Spooky. Known as Paraskevikdekatriaphobia, it has a fear strong enough to keep some people in bed all day. 

Number 7 is considered 'lucky'. When you ask someone to pick a number from 1 to 10 number 7 is chosen most often. The extremes 1 and 10 are neglected, the even numbers have too much of a recognisable patter, while number 5 is too obvious being positioned in the middle, that leaves 3, 7, 9. With 9 being close to the end, and 7 seeming more obscure than 3 it is chosen most often. 

A survey of 40000 people found that number 7 was closely followed by number 3. it shows the perception people have with numbers. 

Lucky number 7 is reinforced in western culture seen on slot machines and at casinos (777). 

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Not Eating The Marshmallow Made Me A Better Gambler!

Gambling and children don't mix. 

But children and sweets, that's a different matter. 

All those temptations. 

I've always had a craving for a Curly Wurly every time Charlie & The Chocolate Factory was screened on TV. 

I'm the gambling equivalent of Augustus Gloop!!!

In fact, if Lucky 15 betting slips were found in chocolate bars I'd live in a mansion made from cocoa beans. Like many, I've been sent up the river. Unlike me, I doubt yours was chocolate. My demise? I fell into a chocolate river, got stuck in a pipe, before a vacuum shot me to the fudge room never to be seen again. I got chatted-up by some sweet girl, oompa loompa, who looked like a female version of David Dickinsonn and had the sex appeal of Pamela Anderson. 

I died a heavenly death, betting against simpletons, gorging myself on Whipple-Scrumptious Fudgemallow Delight and took pleasure in watching my sultry oompa loompa suck Everlasting Gobstoppers until she was blue in the face. 

Not once did I see or taste a snozzberry.   

However, I realise in these latter years - vita post mortem - that, as a child, resisting that marshmallow could have made me a better gambler.

Even thinking about it now, I'll never look at the Naked Marshmallow Co Toasting Gift Set the same again. 

The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment brings insight to why your children should wait for their sweets. 

Little terrors. 

In 1972 Walter Mischel of Stanford University run an experiment about deferred gratification (basically having your cake but not eating it).  The study was to understand when the control of deferred gratification develops in children. But what does the ability to wait for something we desire relate to in later life? 

Let's first learn a little more about the study. The children sat by a table, empty of distractions, where a marshmallow was placed in front of them. (Tempting!!!) The children were told they could eat the marshmallow but if they waited for 15 minutes, their reward would be a second marshmallow. 

Over 600 children took part in the experiment. Only a minority ate the marshmallow immediately. Of those who waited (deferred gratification) one-third waited long enough to get the second treat. 

Follow-up studies, 1988 and 1990, showed that ''pre-school children who delayed gratification longer in the self-imposed delayed paradigm, were described more than 10 years later by their parents as adolescents who were significantly more competent'' and the ability to defer gratification also correlated with higher SAT scores. 

Perhaps I should have waited a little longer for all those things I wanted as a child?  

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Fear of your Mother in Law, Laughter & Opinions

The worst day of your life!

(Only kidding, this is just about psychology).

How many jokes can you tell? Comedians would die a death on stage without using their mother in-law as killer material. Les Dawson used to not only tell jokes about her but dress up like her too. 

Now, it would be darn bad news to suggest that every would-be husband or bloke with a ball and chain around his cankle is  having sleepless nights wondering if, at some point, there will be a kind, considerate and menacing knock at the door. The smell of Olay wafting through the letterbox and the dulcet tones of ''It's only me!''

Who is that? Sounds like the mother in law!!!!! 

So many son in-laws are blessed with a ''second'' mummy.

However, there is a word for all this! A word which tells a very sad tale. Some men (and women) have a phobia called Socerphobia (nothing to do with football). It's a phobia of parents in law. 

I'm sure you're laughing about the whole mother/father in law scenario. I mean, who wouldn't laugh about it? I'll tell you who! Someone with a problem that most of us don't have. Some people don't dare watch a comedy on TV. They only feel safe watching Jimmy Carr because they know it could bring on a fear like no other fear. 

The fear of laughter is actually real. I must admit, I have never known anyone with such a fear. Perhaps they are too cheerless to mention it in general conversation. However, if you know someone who never - ever - laughs at your jokes, is ''seemingly'' miserable 24/7, and they never watch comedies - you might have a candidate. Whisper to them (no, not a joke). Do you have Geliophobia? 

Where would the average mother in law be without an opinion? They need the odd comments to created a bit of conflict to last a year or two. So, I guess we can be assured that no mother in law across the world has this particular phobia. Allodoxophobia. The fear of having an opinion. How could someone last a day without having an opinion? If you know some then please feel free to keep asking their opinion about house decor, the weather or some randomness which is bound to get no response. Take joy in the fact they not only have no opinion but come out in a cold sweat just thinking about it. 

Do you know a parent in law who doesn't laugh or have an opinion. 

Never. 

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Attracted, Threatened & Bored by Your Eye Contact

Nonverbal communication. It was first scientifically researched in 1872 by Charles Darwin in his book The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals.  

It can tell you more than you think. How about eye contact? Is that bookmaker looking at you in a certain way? 

So what does eye contact, or more specifically the time someone looks in your direction, mean? 

If someone measured the amount of eye contact by percentage, you may be receiving some very mixed messages.

If you are talking about the form of a given race at Kempton and your mate is looking at you 60% of the time you're not doing a very good job of convincing him. You can bet that the person is bored.

So that friend is looking at you quite intently, an extra 20%, perhaps. What does it mean? They fancy you. 

This last occurrence may happen if you have given a few losing tips. So what does eye contact cranked up to 100% mean? 

It's not good news. The boredom has gone beyond attraction and now we are talking one thing.

You are being threatened.

Hopefully, not by a man in a suit brandishing a loaded banana.  

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How to Pick a Grand National Winner: 7 Secret Tips the Bookies Can't Beat

We've all heard of different ways to pick a Grand National winner.

From liking the name, colours, to ''I always bet on the favourite''.

But when it comes to narrowing down the field, what are those secret tips which give you a fighting chance to win a bundle of cash?

Take a look at our 7 Grand National Secrets to make this year go down a storm:

Don't be scared of the price

Never, ever, laugh at someone who bets on an outsider in this race as nearly anything is possible. Did you know that five 100/1 winners have shocked the bookies (and punters) since the race was inaugurated back in 1839? Since 2009, there have been winners at odds of 100/1, 33/1, 66/1, 25/1, 25/1, 33/1. Horses have to be a certain standard to be allowed to enter this steeplechase and that means all are capable on their day. The handicapper is there to give each horse a chance of winning. That's why horses at huge odds often go better than the favourite. 

Experience is key

Although 40 horses take part it is usually the older, more experienced, runners which hold the greatest chance of winning. Only four horses have won at the age of eight. This included the three-time winning superhorse Red Rum. 

Weight stops trains

It's true, and it also stops horses winning the Grand National. The better the horse's achievements on course, the higher the weight it has to carry over a long distance of four miles and four furlongs. To jump 30 fences in dry conditions is difficult but if the going turns soft it is next to impossible. Ideally, your horse should carry less than 11-6lbs. 

It's a marathon, not a sprint

There are many speed horse which try their luck at Aintree but very few win. You have to go back to Mr Frisk in 1990, who set a course record with a time of 8m 47.8s. Those fast ground conditions are unlikely to be seen again due to animal welfare. So it often pays to bet on a horse with stamina. The majority of winners have won a chase over 3 miles and most had won over further. As the fences are smaller, horses have a tendency to go even faster which plays into the hands of those who love a test of stamina.

Your horse needs to jump

I know it sounds obvious but jumping is the key to getting around the Grand National. If it is clumsy or has a proven record for falling then look at other selections. 

Experience is key 

The Grand National is a stiff test for the best horses and some take to it while others struggle from the start. Experience is a huge advantage in this race and why those who have completed the course before or even hit the frame deserve extra credit. Include the form of other nationals such as the Welsh, Irish and Scottish races.  Ten of the last 14 winners had previously run in at least one of these three races. Mon Mome, who won at odds of 100/1 in 2009, had started favourite in the Welsh National.  

Cheltenham Festival Chase Winners

These are horses which go well when competing in the Grand National, especially British trained.   

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5 Ways Psychology can Improve your Gambling

Psychology – the study of behaviour and mind. I think you will agree it is a fascinating subject because it helps identify new wisdom, understanding and advancement of the human condition. I have always been interested in the other side of the coin. How can we use psychology to actually improve our chance of winning? It's a topic of conversation that I have heard very little news. However, I have spent many hours reading psychology books from a quantitative and qualitative perspective and these tips can help you win when betting on the horses.

 
1) Are You Sitting Comfortably? (I Hope Not)

It sounds a crazy idea but research has shown that the chair you sit when making your tips can be the difference between winning and losing. Or, at least, improving your chances of making it a profitable day. It was found that people sitting on a harder chair were harder negotiators than those who sat in comfort. 


2) Loose Lips Sink Tips (Titanic Bet)

Be careful who you listen to. You may not realise it, but you are influenced without knowing. The racing paper, TV channel, opinions and thoughts can easily sway your judgement. If you have good reason to follow your tip – don't be swayed. 

3) Dr Know-It-All

Become an expert. Can the novice punter be better than the expert? It is said that it takes 10,000 hours or study to become an expert of any subject. Make sure you put in the hours and especially work within a niche. It will give you a huge advantage over the opposition. 

4) What Was The Name Of That Horse?

I followed that horse off a cliff. We've all been there. I bet on that horse the last three times so I can't afford to let it go by today. You probably didn't realise but this is psychology at work. You are much more likely to bet on an old favourite horse that new name because of this previous relationship. However, you need to keep this point in mind as all too often this type of horse disappoint and become very costly to follow. 

5) These Words Are Pure Value

The Contrast Theory. This is worth noting. How many times have you seen one horse beat another only to see them re-oppose next start? Take a look at the betting. The beaten horse is likely to be a bigger prize. Not a surprise you might say. But how big are the odds? The human condition details that we often make mistakes in this area and favour the previous winner much more than we should to a level where the outsider of the two horses is a value bet. If the horse looks to have a reason why it could improve: going, distance, jockey it may be the bet. 

The next time you place a bet, take a moment to consider how psychology may have helped or hindered your chance of winning.

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Awkward Silences, Television & Smiles

Another post about psychological ramblings. 

Have you ever been to the bookmaker and noticed an awkward silence? Perhaps you won a bit too much money and along with a loss of wedge the bookmaker gave you the cold shoulder. But how long did it take you to feel something just wasn't right? If you had a stopwatch, what number of second would pass before you pressed the stop button feeling kind of awkward? 

Supposedly, an awkward silence can be felt after just 4 (long) seconds. It doesn't seem quite long enough but that's what they say. 

Television. Who doesn't enjoy watching TV? The box in the corner. Nowadays like a cinema hanging on your wall. Where would we be without that box of delights? Psychology has a lot to say about TV. You name it, there is research about this, that and the other. But what does it say about people who love too much TV? How many hours a week do you watch TV? I seem to be watching less and less so it may be saying something positive about me. So what does it say? Here goes. It's said, unhappy people watch more TV. 

When was the last time someone gave you a smile? I guess it wasn't the bookmaker who you won all that money. Not the TV addict who was too busy watching a ''gripping'' episode of Emmerdale. Why should they even think to smile. Not only should you enjoy receiving a smile but giving them too. Research shows that smiling can make you feel happier. 

If you are watching TV in the same room as someone and feel an awkward silence coming on, switch it off, look at the person, and smile. The world is feeling a happier place, hey?

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3 Fears: Time, Mirrors & Opinions

Have I got time to write this post?

I have an hour glass in the kitchen, a month glass in the living room and standard 80-year life glass in the bedroom. I purchased them TOGETHER on Ebay to save time!

The 80-year life glass is in the shape of a human torso, where everyday a thimble full of sand drops to its feet, half in the left leg and half in the right. The big toes took three months to fill. Scary. Time has passed by and I am halfway up the shins. I think seeing the sands of time pass by has spurred me on to make the most of every minute of the day. Do you have a fear of Chronophobia? I guess it's the kind of phobia you don't consider as a child. Someone may think about it for you. But when we all grow up and the years crack on the fear of time is something that many people can concur.  

Mirror mirror on the wall, who is the most beautiful of them all? Do you love looking at yourself in the mirror? I guess the best assessment of whether you do is by counting the number of mirrors you have in your home. As time goes on you may notice you have more hour, month, life glasses while the mirrors are removed. The fear of mirrors is called Catoprophobia. Do cats like to look at themselves in the mirror?

What we have talked about here is all a matter of opinion. You love mirrors, you're terrified of the sound of that clock ticking in the hallway. This is a strange one. Do you have a fear of having an opinion. The wall flower of politics. The person who walks swiftly on if someone asks if you like bootleg or skinny jeans? Notice how Delia Smith couldn't bring herself to say she liked Oxo over another favourite brand. Your best friend asks you who will win the FA Cup. Sorry, I didn't hear that! The fear of opinions is called Allodoxophobia.  

I wondered why you didn't have an opinion about time or mirrors. 

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